What you looking at?
Is it my eyes, my smile, my walk, my shoes, my haircut….
When was the last time you did a double take on someone? No, I’m not talking purely in an attraction sense, I’m talking about that magic ‘thing’ that makes you think twice about their character, style preferences, what they are inspired by etc. What makes you want to talk to someone, find out more about them? What is that ’1 Thing’?
Today, I want to talk about ‘distraction‘ in both a good and a bad sense discussing the following:
- Dressing appropriately (for you)
- Excellent grooming
- Eye contact/body language/your walk
- Smiling
In order for people to stop and take note of you, aligning all these components can go a long way. How do you want to be perceived? What emotions are you portraying? Are they inviting or pushing away people who may want to engage with you?
So I was thinking about all these external cues and how we can create ‘distraction’ and get noticed amongst the sea of millions of other women.
Dressing appropriately for you…
What is it that stands out about you? When you get ready in the morning, do you take the time to create the optimum ‘distraction’, so that someone, somewhere, does a double take and actually remembers and recalls you? If not, why not?
I’m not talking about being vain and dressing solely for admiration and praise, I’m taling about curating an outfit that has inspired you and speaks volumes about your values. Enough for someone to be ‘distracted’ to want to find out more about you. We live in a world of constant stimulation, deflecting our attention, why should we spend time on/with you? Does your outer brand display how you want to be perceived? Dressing appropriately for you, makes you feel confident, inspires confidence in others and gives them a reason to invest their time in you. It’s not about fitting in, it’s about creating a comfortable look for you, people notice when you are at ease with yourself. It can be you displaying a more tailored side or perhaps a colourful disposition or carefree and girly, whatever your choice make the appropriate choice everyday!
Excellent Grooming
What is so signature about your nails, your hair, your skin, your teeth? I’ve talked about causing a distraction in a good way, but getting noticed for bad grooming is a no no. By nature we instinctively scan each other to decipher more about them? How do you look; healthy, preened, clean? What impressions do you want people to think about when they get up close and personal with you?
What’s so unique about your hair? Do you have that signature red blunt bob like Mary Portas or are you rocking streaks of grey in jet black hair like Daphne Guinness? Do you always wear a signature nail varnish or have a french manicure 100% of the time? I’m not a huge avocate of lots of makeup, I see it as real beauty if someone can be as naked as possible and still be confident. But when it comes to make-up what is key to you…that red lipstick, the flick of the black eyeliner?
Eye Contact/Body Language/Your Walk
Have a think about your poise? Does your demeanour show you mean business or are you coming across quite laissez-faire? Is there power in your strut for others to see? I never forget the first time I saw this image of Shala Monroque walking through a Parisienne garden. I was struck by her presence. Even in person she still has that unforgettable grace and poise in her body language. Do you have a similar way you hold your body that commands attention or respect? Do you look people in the eye when you speak? Can you remember the last time you noticed the colour of someone else’s eyes?
Smiling
There is nothing that draws the eye than someones beautiful smile. This is without a doubt the best distraction, a beautiful smile not only causes you to smile to yourself but makes you want to talk to that individual.
So have a go at combining all these elements before you leave the house everyday. Test it out, see what works for you, what creates a desired effect and see if you can stand out from the crowd in all the right ways.
Until next time,
Samantha x
